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The Skinny on the Divine Feminine

The Dalai Lama once famously said “The world will be saved by the Western Woman”.

This usually provokes one of two responses in women.

1.  Holy Crap…that means me.  Now I have to do something.  But what? I’m not ready. I’m certainly not capable. And it’s far too difficult.

2.  Does my ego look big in this world saving gig?  Because if I’m going to take part I want a starring role – with credits and a trailer.  I don’t want to be assigned some menial task like “being kind to my neighbour”.

Herein lies the dilemma.  Traditionally, female values mean love, compassion and nurturing. The capacity to hold something until it’s ready to emerge (whether that’s a child or an idea that isn’t fully formed yet).

But in our rush to evolve, we glorified the masculine traits of competition, achievement and expansion (whether that’s of “stuff”‘or status).

This has led to some strange power plays.

The Go Getter – The “I’m more of a man than you’ll ever be” female. Margaret Thatcher was an early pioneer of this model of power. Getting into the boy’s club can be such heady wine that it messes with the inner guidance system.

The Manipulator – “If you think aggression is damaging, try passive aggression”. This is a hideous blueprint for power, but an obvious side effect of generations of female children who were forced to be “nice” when they felt anything but…

The Martyr – The last ditch attempt.  “I have one thing left, the power to make you feel guilty… and it is enough!” This may be a female caricature, but let’s not forget the many generations of women who were burnt at the stake when they decided to have an opinion on the world.

The Fey/Winsome – “If I float around in this Goddess demeanor dispensing grace and aphorisms, a knight will rescue me.  Oh it’s the 21st century… I mean the universe will take care of me”.

It’s time for a reality check.

All this stuff is still alive and kicking in the collective psyche.  If we want female power to change the world, these early programs need some upgrades.

We are living at a really interesting time in human evolution.  The world may be facing its biggest challenges to date, but we have never been better equipped for the task – if we join up and get a bit more focussed.

So what (collectively) are we currently obsessed with?

Kristin Stewart’s affair with Liberty Ross’s husband!  

I know….it’s tragic.

First there was the fairy tale… Snow White (Fey/winsome) condemned to death by stepmother Queen (Go getter) for being too beautiful and threatening her power.  It happens – Margaret Thatcher didn’t let any women into her cabinet either.

Then there was the movie… Kristen Stewart/Snow White (transforms from Fey/winsome to Go getting Warrior and comes back to kill the Queen). Film makers are now trying to get with the zeitgeist – female power… yay!

Then there was the drama…  Kristen Stewart (Manipulator) betrays boyfriend (Knight) and Liberty (Earth mother) by stealing her husband (King).

And present day…Kristen Stewart (Martyr) now confined to tower and about to be torched by furious Twilight angry mob).

Meanwhile the world is going to hell in a hand basket.

Women (that’s us) need to get our shit together PDQ if the Dalai Lama is going to see any meaningful change in this lifetime.

What would it take for us to disentangle ourselves from our addiction to old archetypal forces and channel this energy into something a bit more real?! If we could birth and nurture some new archetypes, we would have different stories to tell.

These aren’t the old archetypes with a “twist.” 

Sorry Disney, but giving the princess superlative archery skills and a bad attitude, doesn’t raise the bar, it just creates a descent into another cliche.

Sorry Spice Girls, but inspiring pre-pubescent girls to prance and preen in a parody of sexuality didn’t promote ‘girl power’, it sanctioned pedophilia.

Facebook is awash with teenage girls in various states of undress posing like porn stars, just as town centres are inundated with girls who seem to think self empowerment means the ability to out-drink, out-swear and out-badly behave boys.

But what drives all this fascination with counterfeit power?

The need for love and approval, coupled with a lack of discipline and a fear of real power.

Girls need the parenting skills of a new archetype – the Divine Feminine.

The Divine Feminine would teach the containment of power.

This is a very different to the expression of power.

Our observation of the expression of other peoples’ power can cause us to feel jealous (if we like their expression). Or it can make us judgemental (if we don’t like it). We can become addicted to the power of others (the painful bit of being in love). And we can negotiate our own power in exchange for it (I’ll gladly give you all my power if you look after me from now on).

But the reason we sell, negotiate, give away or disown our power has nothing to do with other people or other circumstances, it’s down to our inability to CONTAIN it.

And the feminine is all about containing something until it’s ready to emerge… until it’s ready to be born.

On the outside of course it looks like nothing is going on. But on the inside, it’s all going on!

Imagine if we all had this capacity.  We wouldn’t feel compelled to reach for the nearest goal in order to “look” productive – this just gives rise to a constant outpouring of mediocre stuff.

We wouldn’t feel the urge to say something, just to fill a gap in the conversation. This just promotes mindless reaction instead of meaningful response.

We wouldn’t need to show off to make our presence known. The external world would lose its lustre and the inner one – our crucible of creativity – would become more compelling.

The resulting outpouring of our fully nurtured creativity would change the world.

And the Dalai Lama could finally get some rest.

12 Comments

  1. Sarah B Demers says:

    Write on! Thanks for continuing to challenge and inspire. Sarah

    • Eleanor O'Rourke says:

      Aw Sarah!! Thank you! I’ve just finished my email to you, so this crossed. I wrote this post on the train on the way back from the south coast of England visiting a friend. One of the great things about planning a trip away is you get to see all your friends before you go!

  2. Lynette Daudt LAc says:

    Wow. I feel so good right now. Seen. Heard. Understood. Beautiful thoughts beautifully expressed. I am inspired.

    Thanks!

  3. jcaswell says:

    Incredible, inspiring and right on! “The reason we sell, negotiate, give away or disown our power has nothing to do with other people or other circumstances, it’s down to our inability to CONTAIN it.” – Eleanor O’Rourke

  4. Melynnda* says:

    My first visit here…Very Good Stuff, lots to chew on.
    Thank you!
    M*

  5. Loved reading this. I, too, have found there is so much masculine energy wrapped up the modern form of feminine ‘expression.’ It feels as though it’s become about what you can do, how you produce, etc. To contain it, I felt the power of that as soon as you mentioned that we ‘contain’ the upbringing of our children. Another ‘powerless’ place for women in modern times, yet so filled with a Divine power for change. Thank you for this. I’ll be following and reading more of your work. As I got to the end of the post, I could feel myself hungry to read/receive MORE! xo

    • Eleanor O'Rourke says:

      Thanks Jackie. Am in Bosnia at the moment and will be writing about the pyramids here. Don’t believe any of that ‘hoax’ stuff – it’s from years ago when they first discovered them and all the egyptologists got all snippy because they want the pyramid franchise (Yes… archaeologists have old paradigm egos – in spades!). There is now absolutely conclusive proof, not only that there are pyramids here, but there are pyramids all over the world – it’s just that most of them are covered in four feet of soil and vegetation. Now that more extensive excavation has happened here, they’ve carbon dated the organic material that covers the SURFACE of the man made blocks and found it to be 24,800 years old!

  6. Anne Marie Gover says:

    By way of a mutual friend’s email today, Donna Voegler-Boutin, – brilliant friend and co-conspirator in advancing this troubled planet we inhabit – I cautiously opened your blog and find this brilliant jewel of truth and possibility.

    Perhaps it’s in the air, searching for other options or maybe it’s as simple as movie-going resulting in the same old dismal archetypes, but I just last week mentioned to my husband, himself stuck in the warrior archetype, that maybe, we need new archetypes to release us all from this worn out repetitive drivel. Lo and behold, you’ve nailed it here!!

    • Eleanor O'Rourke says:

      Haha! Thanks Anne Marie. Yes something’s definitely in the air – exciting times coming as we collectively decide not to play the game anymore, the game which benefits so few people and causes misery to so many. Say hi to Donna for me – such a lovely woman. We had an amazing time in sacred France together.

  7. daedalus2u says:

    The Dalai Lama is correct. It will be the Western Woman that saves the World (if the World is to be saved).

    Masculine power is typified by a top-down social power structure; The Patriarchy.

    Feminine power is typified by bottom-up social power, by nurturing the next generation to be responsible human beings.

    Top-down power can only destroy, it can never create. Creation only comes from the bottom-up.

    The next generation can only be what this generation of mothers nurtures it to be.

    Unfortunately, moving up in a top-down power structure occurs by pulling down those above you and destroying what you cannot control. If you destroy the base that nurtures everything above it, what the War on Women is trying to do, then:

    Things fall apart; the centre cannot hold;
    Mere anarchy is loosed upon the world,
    The blood-dimmed tide is loosed, and everywhere
    The ceremony of innocence is drowned;
    The best lack all conviction, while the worst
    Are full of passionate intensity.

    William Butler Yeats

    • Eleanor O'Rourke says:

      “Masculine power is typified by a top-down social power structure; The Patriarchy.
      Feminine power is typified by bottom-up social power, by nurturing the next generation to be responsible human beings.
      Top-down power can only destroy, it can never create. Creation only comes from the bottom-up.
      The next generation can only be what this generation of mothers nurtures it to be.”

      Brilliant!! Haven’t seen this more succinctly put anywhere!!

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